Belonging to generation whose ideology of relationships changes every minute it’s really hard to be the perfect one. We want what we need. Whether it be our parents friends or partners .We want someone to be there but still be 10 steps away. We want and unwant. We want commradrie and we need space.
So what are we really looking for?
After loads of morning coffee ,1 A.M. epiphany and some sensible minds around a stable conclusion was reached.
We need pillows not blankets in our life.This analogy might be a little off track but just think about it. On a hot summery night we might be rolled up in the most fluffy covers ever but one drop of sweat and the blanket comes off. It’s a need to be there and not there at the same time
And it’s not entirely wrong. Being emotionally dependent on a person so much so that our own existence as an individual is compromised is not a move I’d like to make. When our own comfort zone is breached that’s when we start pushing people away. But does that mean solitude is our only companion? Not really.
That’s when pillows enter the picture. Pillows give us the support we need without us feeling constricted. It gives us the opportunity to grow in our own individual spaces but still maintain social contact that makes us feel cherished. Relationships need to be like fluffy pillows. Something we can always fall on and still grow as an individual. It needs to be there because we believe it to be our support system . Never let it be based on yearning , that to to such an extent that the minute the blanket is taken off you you start searching for a new one. Don’t make relationships replaceble. And the only way that will happen is when we have enough space for our emotions to be reflected and accepted .
Emotions are a mess. But the brain is messier. We ourselves decide what we want and what we get. So let’s make a change , next time when someone needs your support give them enough so that they can tackle it but still grow. Only this will make people realise that when you need help they need to be there to help you make a decision not make the decision for you.
So for some time let go off that blanket and hold that pillow to face the heat.